That are applicable outside of athletes. I hope this doesn't get me in trouble but my boss was used to hiring younger folks who often had young families and a couple of times when a person being recruited couldn't commit to the job due to non-work factors he would say, "that guy's balls need to drop." It is a metaphor for farm animals that I wasn't familiar with. I understand that the man shouldn't drive everything, but it was surprising to me how many times the male in the family was the only bread winner, and he had a much better opportunity and wanted the job, but couldn't commit because, "my wife doesn't want to leave her friends in our neighborhood," or "she likes Sunday dinner with her parents." I understand the value of living close to family and familiar neighborhood, etc., but at some point when you are severely holding back your career prospects and declining a job you prefer so you can avoid conflict with your wife who doesn't work, it makes me think it is time to man up. This doesn't mean that the man decides everything, but that both partners need to understand the give and take of the decision you are making, so the decision to not move also impacts the financial situation if you will be making less money.

When it comes to athletes, some of these men need for their balls to drop and to help their wives and girlfriends understand the trade offs. If you are dating a young man, he can focus on prepping for the pros or he can spend a ton of time with you, but he may not be able to do both. I actually respect an athlete who has no professional prospects and says, "well, I'm going to retire to focus on my academic and family." But what I do not respect is for a kid like Jake Heaps, (sorry to pile on, but no one seems to care), to say, "well, I have to miss fall camp for my Honeymoon." Either you are all in or you aren't. A Honeymoon isn't a life or death situation. I suspect his fiancé dreamed of a nice honey moon and wedding like most girls, fine but when you marry an athlete you make some trade offs which require your husband to be at fall camp. Jake should have laid down the law.