They don’t live together when they’re dating, they still have separation every day and the expectation isn’t the same. Think about how it was before you were married and then how that changed immediately after you got married. No one, especially females, really thinks that marriage is going to be anything other than being together and just butterfly’s and cupcakes, no one really gets that if anything it gets harder once your married. What you experience before you date is not what you experience after you marry. I think anyone that honestly thinks about it realizes that but it isn’t something you know before you live it.

There’s this idealized fantasy of delirious happiness where even if you’re apart for a few hours each day the husband comes home and you eat dinner, talk about your days, cuddle, etc. but it isn’t that way for any of us and even less so for these guys who go to school full time, then spend almost as much time working out, practicing, watching film, etc then have to do homework and sleep enough while also trying to squeeze in a few minutes of family. It’s hard for anyone, harder for these guys. Then throw in the travel and time away from home. For football even for home games these guys don’t sleep at home they all stay at a hotel as a team, away from their family again, and don’t go home until after the game the next day, and it might be late at night if it’s a night game.

I think that most don’t realize how much time really is involved, especially in season, and how much time these guys are away from their wives and kids. It is anything but the fairytale the girls are thinking they’re gonna get and some of them don’t handle that well and it affects the husband of course. So no they don’t know going in, they don’t realize how it will be, and even if they know it they don’t really believe it until they’re living it and then they don’t like it. Everyone thinks love can transcend everything else, but of course that really isn’t true.