I was him way too many times. It's why I'm not very good.

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Sep 4, 2019
3:55:21pm

cougfanblue CB Nose Hair

I was him way too many times. It's why I'm not very good.

But if it were my child, I'd essentially force him to go be honest about it, and make a plan going forward. Some of the other things I mention may be in play as well. Learning an instrument is dang hard, but eventually something clicks and it becomes really fun (for some people).

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14 yr old refuses to go to piano lesson. What should the punishment be?

Iman23

9/4/19 3:40pm

Stop piano lessons

Wingnut

9/4/19 3:41pm

^^THis

IceBlueCoug

9/4/19 3:45pm

Possibly have the lesson fee deducted from his allowance?

BP4byu

9/4/19 3:41pm

Wow. That's taking it to the next level

TNT

9/4/19 3:42pm

I would never go again after that

Grit for Brains

9/4/19 3:43pm

Take him to Elton John tonight and show him what he could be if he practices a

RC Vikings

9/4/19 3:43pm

Wouldn't that be deception? Oh wait. You could have been saying BYU athletics*

TNT

9/4/19 3:45pm

I thought the piano lesson was the punishment...

foofcoug

9/4/19 3:43pm

Have a frank discussion about the value he places on it. If you really want to die on that hill, charge him for lesson.

Soupie

9/4/19 3:43pm

Ya... why are you making a 14 yr old take piano lessons? Would you

kotacoug

9/4/19 3:44pm

This is the question.

Alister Mackenzie

9/4/19 3:45pm

Depends. Maybe Iman23 is related to LaVar Ball

TNT

9/4/19 3:46pm

If I had already paid for the season, I would make him go and play.

BrutusBuckeye

9/4/19 3:47pm

What if you made him sign up to play basketball which I’m going to make a huge

kotacoug

9/4/19 4:27pm

No, I didn't make him sign up for basketball. However, he got discouraged

BrutusBuckeye

9/4/19 4:36pm

Because he usually likes it. And usually doesn't fight it, but mostly because

Iman23

9/4/19 3:49pm

There's no difference. If it's on par with chores or church attendance, then

Memmo

9/4/19 3:53pm

I don't see a difference.

Mitty

9/4/19 11:08pm

he never said he was making him take lessons. Give him a break. Maybe the kid

buckeyecougarguy

9/4/19 3:50pm

If I allowed my kids to quit every time they say they don't want to go to practice...

cougfanblue

9/4/19 4:00pm

Let him play sports

9/4/19 3:44pm

Is he not wanting to go to avoid having to face his teacher after not practicing?

cougfanblue

9/4/19 3:46pm

I think your first question is the answer...

Iman23

9/4/19 3:47pm

I was him way too many times. It's why I'm not very good.

cougfanblue

9/4/19 3:55pm

about the time he's 16 and girls gather round him at the piano, then he'll be

StarMan

9/4/19 4:04pm

This could be. TNT never practiced as a teenager

TNT

9/4/19 3:47pm

My wife gave out so many (like) "Get Out of Jail Free" cards to her piano

StarMan

9/4/19 3:54pm

Probably a good strategy.

cougfanblue

9/4/19 3:56pm

That's actually a good idea

TNT

9/4/19 3:57pm

Because it was hers and not mine? I think I agree with you. 🙂

StarMan

9/4/19 3:57pm

Oh. Uh. Sorry. No he meant that would be much more productive

TNT

9/4/19 3:59pm

If it costs you money, he should reimburse you. Otherwise, I'm not sure why

SoCalCoug

9/4/19 3:51pm

Sounds like he hasn't practiced enough and is concerned the teacher

CLCougar

9/4/19 3:52pm

Tickets to a UoU drama department production

Borg

9/4/19 3:54pm

Is his teacher hot? Probably get better participation if shes hot

WDaddy

9/4/19 3:54pm

Jefe gets upset when I use the H word

Croweater

9/4/19 4:42pm

Apparently Jefe doesn't care to moderate anymore

WDaddy

9/4/19 4:49pm

Make them attend a Yanni concert. They'll see how cool they can be if they practice

9/4/19 3:57pm

Find a teacher who lets him play songs he wants to play.

ldssdl

9/4/19 3:59pm

Ha! My 12 year old is currently yelling at me about this, too.

fattycoug

9/4/19 3:59pm

I don't know if this helps, but here's our experience:

jdub

9/4/19 4:01pm

The "IF and ONLY IF" part kinda felt like you were doing some forcing.

SandYFan

9/4/19 4:21pm

Well, maybe a little, but we gave them a choice between options. And they readily agreed.

jdub

9/4/19 7:07pm

when I was 12 and stopped taking lessons, one of biggest regrets of my life

redlemmons

9/4/19 4:05pm

Everybody says this (including me) but here's the thing....

fulano

9/4/19 4:57pm

Time to ask him if he really wants to play the piano?

lightmann

9/4/19 4:06pm

It might be time to channel your son’s musical talent in another direction.

ataylor

9/4/19 4:53pm

Has he been circumcised?

Belboz

9/4/19 4:53pm

Exile

9/4/19 5:22pm

I would tell him that if he can’t adequately express why he doesn’t want to go

StantonMac

9/4/19 5:34pm

Sure you want to fight that battle? Let it go, man. That's about the age I

Mitty

9/4/19 11:06pm

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