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Jan 16, 2021
8:15:51pm

depressedcougar92 Walk-on

I feel so stuck.

I feel stuck in a job that gives me no satisfaction or pleasure. I pretty much dread going to work. I don’t see a way to leave because I’m not that experienced and my degree is worthless. I don’t know anything I’m good at. I’ve looked and looked and can’t find anything to help me find a different path.

I feel like I’ve failed my wife and newborn.

I feel like I really only have one option.

So hopeless.

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depressedcougar92

Bio page: depressedcougar92
Joined: Mar 25, 2019
Last login: Nov 16, 2022
Total posts: 16 (0 FO)

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I feel so stuck.

depressedcougar92

1/16/21 8:15pm

What’s your degree and what work do you do?

TeeKaa

1/16/21 8:17pm

Health policy. I only got it because I felt stuck in school and that was the

depressedcougar92

1/16/21 10:29pm

What are some things you are passionate about ?

Isleofavalon

1/16/21 10:35pm

That’s where it gets tough. I don’t really have a ton of interests other than

depressedcougar92

1/16/21 11:16pm

Have you considered teaching health in HS and coaching sports?

(Private)

1/17/21 1:18am

I was rejected in my first major of choice at BYU

collin7

1/18/21 7:24am

You're very new to the work world. Lots of opportunity to look to what you enjoy

TeeKaa

1/17/21 12:24am

What do you mean by one option? You have 100s of options! You got this!

brazilcoug

1/16/21 8:18pm

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allaboutthegainz

1/16/21 8:18pm

My dad made a career pivot, went back and got his MBA in his early 30s.

ldssdl

1/16/21 8:19pm

My BYU degree is General Studies. There's other options if you need them.

paulb

1/16/21 8:19pm

I’m sorry. I’ve been there. The only advice I can offer is keep a positive

Millhouse

1/16/21 8:20pm

POTD for visibility

AlphaCoug

1/16/21 8:21pm

I’m certain you have a lot more talents and capabilities than you realize

The Chief

1/16/21 8:25pm

Err meant for OP.

The Chief

1/16/21 8:26pm

This will seem like nothing years from now. Don't get too stuck in the moment.

cougaman

1/16/21 8:22pm

I made a massive career change at 40. Went back to BYU and got a PhD in my

lefty

1/16/21 8:22pm

You feel like you hit rock bottom. The good news, it's only up from here.

Cougarrr

1/16/21 8:23pm

Get an MBA or an MPA depending on if you want to work in the private or public

1/16/21 8:23pm

Honestly, school was a struggle for me. I consider myself smart, but I just

depressedcougar92

1/16/21 10:32pm

You are never stuck !

Isleofavalon

1/16/21 8:23pm

There’s a way out man. There’s other jobs you can do. Leverage this site for one source. People will help.

RdF3

1/16/21 8:24pm

Keep fighting brother. Most of us have been through long stretches of the same. I didn't really find my sweet spot

mulletino

1/16/21 8:24pm

I worked at a job for 2 yrs at a place I hated going to. Took a while to get

SUAVO

1/16/21 8:25pm

You are so blessed to have a wife and a new baby. Look at your

OmahaThunderCoug

1/16/21 8:27pm

The church offers

Spocougar

1/16/21 8:28pm

Go to law school. Good thing is you can get in with a worthless degree.

Thrill

1/16/21 8:28pm

No offense, but this is literally some of the worst career advice ever.

SafetyFirst

1/17/21 12:11pm

I have similar anecdotal evidence. I sort of felt like the OP at a point in my

Thrill

1/17/21 4:18pm

Yes. My sister graduated from a top 10 law school

donnerstag

1/17/21 4:30pm

That can happen with any degree/job.

Thrill

1/17/21 8:42pm

The debt is the major issue

donnerstag

1/17/21 8:50pm

That is my biggest issue. I feel so swallowed in debt I work 50-60+ hours

Cougphysio

1/17/21 9:42pm

Tell us more about your background and situation. Lots of resources here to

BigD Coug

1/16/21 8:28pm

Your family needs you, not just your $. Talk to some mentors you trust if not a

Scooter

1/16/21 8:30pm

President Hinckley Quote and some others that help me

tarmstrong

1/16/21 8:32pm

You’re only 28-29 y/o. You’re young.

gangbusters

1/16/21 8:32pm

I feel you.

BlueVU

1/16/21 8:36pm

If you live in Utah County or Salt Lake County and would like to work in sales DM me and you’re hired (not an MLM).

JollyGreenGiant

1/16/21 8:37pm

This is a serious offer & I can confirm it's not an MLM.

Soupie

1/16/21 8:46pm

Sad that we have to add that parenthetical

maxpowers

1/16/21 9:09pm

Take him up on his offer if you really want to get out of your spiral

USMCdad

1/16/21 10:31pm

I’m in Davis County.

depressedcougar92

1/16/21 10:31pm

We’re expanding that direction in a few months. I’ll message you when it gets closer

JollyGreenGiant

1/16/21 10:35pm

I appreciate that. Do you mind me asking what kind of sales?

depressedcougar92

1/16/21 11:17pm

Not at all, just BMed you

JollyGreenGiant

1/17/21 2:19am

BM's are never a good thing in my industry (healthcare) 😳

Cougphysio

1/17/21 8:02pm

Seems to depend on the frequency and consistency, right?

TwinsRight

1/17/21 8:16pm

Lol... This should be a cougarboard poll... At what age can you casually talk

Cougphysio

1/17/21 9:48pm

The church has a great networking group that meets at least monthly out of their

TempeCoug

1/16/21 11:17pm

Newborn. There it is. I figured out what’s wrong.

1/16/21 8:38pm

The lack of sleep definitely doesn’t help the depression.

depressedcougar92

1/16/21 10:35pm

Please take the following in the spirit in which it is intended.

1/17/21 7:16am

Whoa . . . Hang in there dear Brother. Trust us. There

rocker

1/16/21 8:38pm

I went through exactly what you're describing. Here is what helped me:

cougfrvr

1/16/21 8:42pm

You’re actually in a good position. You have a wife who loves you and an awesome

garyfan

1/16/21 8:43pm

You should consider therapy. Sometimes professional help is what it takes to help you see things you can’t see in life

1/16/21 8:47pm

Try Coding. I'm doing lambda school right now

eagleye

1/16/21 8:52pm

I actually tried a similar thing. It wasn’t for me.

depressedcougar92

1/16/21 11:17pm

Tri Lam?

Blue2thebone

1/17/21 12:25am

I have been there. Keep grinding. Stay positive. Good things will happen

RexIdaCoug

1/16/21 8:55pm

Hey man, if "I feel like I only have one option" means what I think it does.

fattycoug

1/16/21 9:01pm

Talk honestly to your wife. I can guarantee she loves you way more than any job or pay check. You can get through this

Soupie

1/16/21 9:04pm

I don’t know if a second job would be doable for you but some employers

GatorCoug

1/16/21 9:29pm

Hang in there. You may feel lost, but you have a wife and beautiful newborn that love you. Things will get better.

BR549

1/16/21 9:37pm

Here's a time when I felt like everything was against me: Fired at BYU, wife 7 mos pregnant, no place to live, no job.

Zenoch

1/16/21 10:04pm

Look at this immense support from people that don’t even know you and realize

TheoHux

1/16/21 10:14pm

Christ died for you so that you could live for Him. He loves you, and won't ever abandon you. You may feel surprised by

BlueBlood94

1/16/21 10:23pm

Have you considered medication to take off the edge? Actually very common.

Bin01015

1/16/21 11:41pm

Thanks for sharing your story...it helps others to know they are not alone

The Chief

1/17/21 12:15am

Yes, I take medication.

depressedcougar92

1/17/21 12:30am

You might want to discuss a dosage change with your doctor as well as therapy.

Delicate Genius

1/17/21 4:22pm

Just sent you a boardmail.

Dennis Nedry

1/17/21 1:52am

A couple of things.

Acorn

1/17/21 8:42am

RE: I feel so stuck.

PA_pete

1/17/21 8:43am

You’re an inspiration. Very happy for you and your family. Thx for sharing

Big Daddy D

1/17/21 1:19pm

I share a similar story as yours...BA in mass comms MBA in HRM worked as a sales

Punk Philosopher

1/17/21 3:18pm

You’re providing for your family. Your wife and newborn are lucky to have you.

stenso

1/17/21 11:57am

Hey man you’re not alone. I almost took my life right before my first was born

Punk Philosopher

1/17/21 2:25pm

Amazing perseverance...thank you for sharing. And now you are looking to help

The Chief

1/17/21 2:42pm

Spent 15 years in the salt mines of a job I hated. Got to where you are more

TheDash

1/17/21 9:32pm

Welcome to the club and hang in there

Coug Dude

1/17/21 9:41pm

The perfect career happens to very few.

Bin01015

1/17/21 10:43pm

Health Policy: Manage health care facilities

MichCoug

1/18/21 7:26am

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