You need to find his real issue, the church or school?

Feb 25, 2021
11:41:43am

Baron AKA "Dear Leader"

Hard to solve the problem when you don't know what is really the problem.

Also whose idea to come home? Was he shy before? Why did he stay in his apartment at BYU?

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Transferring out of BYU advice?

byupirate

2/25/21 11:26am

When you say "state school" do you mean in Oregon?

supertux

2/25/21 11:27am

Oregon State maybe.. has a friend there

byupirate

2/25/21 11:28am

Is he really struggling in class? If so, perhaps he transfers to BYUI? I'm not

snowbird

2/25/21 11:51am

the institute at OSU is great

Turd Ferguson

2/25/21 11:52am

If he stays in his apt only, his experience would likely not be much different

Thrill

2/25/21 11:28am

It wasn't clear from the OP, but it sounds like he's back home in Oregon doing school remotely.

supertux

2/25/21 11:29am

Correct, but when he was on campus, it sounds like he stayed in the apt.

Thrill

2/25/21 11:31am

BYU recommend students to stay in their rooms, and he is not social butterfly

byupirate

2/25/21 11:45am

I've gone on lots of walks around campus. Gives me something to cut through all the boring. Lots of great hikes and

Magathisll

2/25/21 11:49am

I follow several YM from my ward and they are always out hiking, skiing, etc.

Thrill

2/25/21 12:38pm

If I was there would do the same, he is built different than I, more on his PC

byupirate

2/25/21 3:50pm

yea he is back home since most classes were online

byupirate

2/25/21 11:41am

This ^^ Or at least one more semester. It's waaay better

Yiowa

2/25/21 11:29am

I'd agree with this. Impossible to judge any college based on this year. I'd see if he'd be willing to come to campus

Soupie

2/25/21 11:34am

He is thinking of doing BYU online in the fall, on campus winter

byupirate

2/25/21 11:43am

I'd suggest sooner rather than later if he's willing.

Soupie

2/25/21 11:45am

If the issue is getting out of the apt then a change of venue is likely a good

BYU_CPU

2/25/21 11:36am

I doubt it but I would take it.

byupirate

2/25/21 11:46am

My nephews love BYU-I. They were accepted into BYU, but chose the smaller class

Benfica1

2/25/21 11:52am

RE: My nephews love BYU-I. They were accepted into BYU, but chose the smaller

Bin01015

2/25/21 12:00pm

Can he defer his enrollment for a semester or two and get a job during covid?

Parkercoug82

2/25/21 11:39am

A lot schools are going to not give him credit for classes he will take at BYU

Blueto

2/25/21 11:29am

depends on the class. Religion and wellness classes don't transfer. I'd

Colorado

2/25/21 11:31am

That's likely only true for religion courses. Any general ed he took will transfer.

DrBYU

2/25/21 11:31am

BYU unique classes like American Heritage won't. Religious classes of course.

Blueto

2/25/21 11:33am

That's very few relative to how many are available.

Soupie

2/25/21 11:34am

My best friends son transferred. He left BYU as a Junior and went to University

Blueto

2/25/21 11:36am

Probably just religion & Amer Heritage. Without seeing the classes specifically, that sounds like a UH problem.

Soupie

2/25/21 11:38am

Why wouldn't classes transfer (outside of religion courses)?

durandal

2/25/21 11:32am

It really depends on the school

HiLife

2/25/21 11:41am

This year, with COVID has been so, so weird, do you think he'd be happier at BYU

ballen

2/25/21 11:33am

I think so, he went to the 3-4 FHE group event they had.. hard to make friends

byupirate

2/25/21 11:48am

I'd say that you try to convince him to give it a go for even one more semester.

ballen

2/25/21 11:50am

I really really hope so

byupirate

2/28/21 6:22pm

Remote college sucks. I would get him on campus as soon as you can, the restrictions aren't bad at all.

Alpi Gusto

2/25/21 11:33am

Even this semester has a lot more happening in person at BYU, especially if you're seeking it out.

Soupie

2/25/21 11:35am

Exactly. BYU has done a great job with all of this

Alpi Gusto

2/25/21 11:43am

In my area, kids that aren't even going to BYU have moved there for the LDS

Baron

2/25/21 11:39am

Tons of kids are going to ‘MCC’ while living in Provo...

kotacoug

2/25/21 12:25pm

Yep, I'm going to UNLV

Alpi Gusto

2/25/21 12:34pm

Yea, I agree. He likes the idea of staying home.which we don't approve long term

byupirate

2/25/21 11:50am

This year has been hard. My daughter is in similar boat as far as testimony but

Colorado

2/25/21 11:34am

Every school out there has a lame on-campus experience right now.

LegitCoug

2/25/21 11:38am

I wish all had your attitude.I wish all who wanted the BYUexperience can have it

byupirate

2/25/21 11:52am

Transfer to UVU and get an Associates. Then move on to OSU if that's the goal.

Benfica1

2/25/21 11:39am

I can sympathize, but I wonder if he sticks it out 1 more year (where he would

TerpCoug

2/25/21 11:39am

Thank you! I really hope he gets 1 more good year in. Testimony or not.

byupirate

2/25/21 11:53am

Depression is bully especially when it comes to things of the Spirit

cougarsnooty

2/25/21 12:37pm

Have him look at UVU if he liked living in Utah. Still gets some BYU influence.

Troy McClure

2/25/21 11:39am

UVU, USU, or the U.

Shore10

2/25/21 11:40am

You need to find his real issue, the church or school?

Baron

2/25/21 11:41am

Smart, lacking testimony, loves video games, frisbee, just don't reach out

byupirate

2/25/21 11:55am

Tough situation

HiLife

2/25/21 11:46am

part time job good idea, currently is going down the EE which tough, and unfun

byupirate

2/25/21 11:57am

I don't know his major, but I found the University of Utah as easier than Murray

Belboz

2/25/21 11:47am

Thanks for the idea.. currently he is EE.

byupirate

2/25/21 11:58am

Completely understand--family had similar situation

Elvis

2/25/21 11:47am

I think he could still have great experience, testimony or not

cougarblue

2/25/21 11:50am

I'd get him out of there and into somewhere he wants to be, he can start fresh

RC Vikings

2/25/21 11:51am

If he’s struggling academically, let him know every freshman feels the same

4th and Niner

2/25/21 11:59am

you sound like me, he is much smarter than I but not as social

byupirate

2/25/21 3:51pm

With testimony issues, honestly a non-BYU school may be best.

4thand19

2/25/21 12:00pm

Choose school based on reputation of program not reputation of the school

newbie

2/25/21 12:23pm

Does he have a solid idea on what he wants to do after college? what major he wants?

lightmann

2/25/21 12:24pm

no, he is started with EE program, but now is very unsure.

byupirate

2/25/21 3:59pm

RE: no, he is started with EE program, but now is very unsure.

lightmann

2/25/21 5:19pm

what is his mental condition? depression? anything like that?

bald man

2/25/21 12:45pm

I think ok, lack of testimony, friends, and preferring to play video games is

byupirate

2/25/21 4:02pm

I mention the mental aspect because it often doesn’t manifest

bald man

2/25/21 5:33pm

Reed College or Willamette would be good academic choices.

Archaea

2/28/21 7:30pm

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