and perhaps others. Two, it's the ADD. I don't normally get personal, but I have Aspergers and am bipolar. Super ADD. Regardless of a medical condition, the disrespect shouldn't be tolerated and is an issue that you and your wife need to work out together how to handle it. Regarding the ADD, it doesn't matter if there is a condition or not, we are accountable for our actions and it doesn't sound like you are teaching your son accountability. We, as parents, decide how to parent. We don't always do the right thing. We just stumble until we find a path that works. I will tell you that holding your children, regardless of age, accountable for their actions is one of the most important lessons you will ever teach them. It is very difficult to do and has long lasting consequences. In the short-term it doesn't feel good and your children will resent you. In the long-term, they will thank you. Good luck in the continued venting and perhaps coming up with a plan.