stressing over the curriculum for each child. She thought she wasn't doing enough. After our first child got into college I told her she can settle down, it is enough what she was doing. To your point, you have to get the right tools. Also, they cannot only be at home or "isolated", they need to join a Co-op and have to do other interests. I wanted my kids to play sports so we made that happen. Then my younger kids got into doing plays at a youth academy (they go "at least" (usually more as you get closer to performance) once per week and perform every 9 weeks).

It has worked well for us, I am glad my wife pushed me into it.