Something or was upset about something than I would just ask them (nicely) what would they like to do. They would be stumped and would mutter something in which case I would politely say are they sure because that could lead to and i would rattle off a bunch of things.
When you truly don’t have to live with the consequences of your decisions and actions than it’s soooo incredibly hard for them to get what we do... not that anyone wants to hear a doc rant fest