nothing like a proper shamming from fellow church "friends". We get this more often than one would think. Little does anyone know that my wife had 3 late miscarriages, EACH one requiring DNC surgery, and each one causing a lot of questioning about ones physical body, about ones spiritual worthiness, about personal revelation or interpretation of revelation and about Church, God, etc... Each time we get asked or hinted at this question I want to punch the person in the face, because they have NO idea what they just stirred up and crumbles they leave my wife with and me to clean up for throughout the rest of the day and possibly even several days.