When after about 4 years people (many just casual acquaintances) started asking very personal questions and offering counsel about how there’s never a perfect time to have kids and even getting shamed for being selfish.

We wanted to finish school and get established with our careers and be as independent and stable as possible before considering it. There were some medical things to consider too, but it wasn’t a huge part.

We also dated a year before we got engaged. I wanted her to observe and experience an entire BYU football season with me to see how she would be able to handle it. She passed with flying colors. The judgment and gossip was unfortunate though. Many people asked if we were having morality issues that prevented us from getting married in the temple. Very bothersome.

The day after all our student loans were paid off we prayed about it and knew it was time. Never used birth control, but on our first try she was pregnant. She tricked me into getting pregnant for our 2nd by withholding where she was at in her cycle. Was very upset about that but he’s been such a little blessing in our lives.

I wonder why people became so concerned with us having kids. It felt almost like they saw how secure and stable our life was and felt like it wasn’t fair. I don’t know.

Weird culture sometimes - I mostly love it 🙂