Dec 4, 2019
12:06:53pm
12:06:53pm
Part of recognizing you're the only person in the world is also recognizing...
...that just because you did things one way and that way worked for you doesn't mean it will work for everyone.
Do you know why they were traveling? Maybe they were going to a loved one's funeral. Maybe they were taking a child to meet a grandparent for the first time. Maybe there was some other significance for them that you aren't aware of. Maybe there's a reason they are traveling at that time with that child.
I was born in NZ. Lived there until I was 6 years old. When my mother decided she was traveling back to visit - and that it would be the last time she ever planned to do so - I figured out how to take my wife and 1 yr old child with her. It was expensive and we went into debt to do it. But she knew how to find the people I would know - including people I didn't remember that I wanted to meet. She knew where we had lived, where I had attended school, the parks I played in, etc. She was able to introduce me to people who knew my Dad - who could tell me stories about him, who had died years earlier and who my wife and never met.
For me - as someone who works in the human services field and doesn't have a lot of money to travel very far with any kind of frequency - it was a once in a lifetime-type trip. It wasn't something I could go and do any time. It wasn't something I anticipated doing again (it's been 20+ years and I haven't been back). So that's when I went.
You have no idea what other people's lives are, what their motivations are, what their needs are.
I get that doing it your way worked for you. But please understand that, as you've said, you aren't the only person in the world. Other people are different and have different reasons for doing what they do.
I recognize that there are self-centered rude and inconsiderate people in this world. And we all get to deal with them at one time or another. But I don't think you can jump to the conclusion that someone is self-centered, rude, or inconsiderate based solely on the knowledge that they took a child on a plane and didn't wait until the child was older to do so.
Do you know why they were traveling? Maybe they were going to a loved one's funeral. Maybe they were taking a child to meet a grandparent for the first time. Maybe there was some other significance for them that you aren't aware of. Maybe there's a reason they are traveling at that time with that child.
I was born in NZ. Lived there until I was 6 years old. When my mother decided she was traveling back to visit - and that it would be the last time she ever planned to do so - I figured out how to take my wife and 1 yr old child with her. It was expensive and we went into debt to do it. But she knew how to find the people I would know - including people I didn't remember that I wanted to meet. She knew where we had lived, where I had attended school, the parks I played in, etc. She was able to introduce me to people who knew my Dad - who could tell me stories about him, who had died years earlier and who my wife and never met.
For me - as someone who works in the human services field and doesn't have a lot of money to travel very far with any kind of frequency - it was a once in a lifetime-type trip. It wasn't something I could go and do any time. It wasn't something I anticipated doing again (it's been 20+ years and I haven't been back). So that's when I went.
You have no idea what other people's lives are, what their motivations are, what their needs are.
I get that doing it your way worked for you. But please understand that, as you've said, you aren't the only person in the world. Other people are different and have different reasons for doing what they do.
I recognize that there are self-centered rude and inconsiderate people in this world. And we all get to deal with them at one time or another. But I don't think you can jump to the conclusion that someone is self-centered, rude, or inconsiderate based solely on the knowledge that they took a child on a plane and didn't wait until the child was older to do so.
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