doesn't come because they are terrified to be around where alcohol is served. But those aren't even close to a plurality of members. It's a time management issue for me. I have obligations outside of work. I have to prioritize those. When there's a legitimate reason (including hobnobbing with the right people) to go out to one of these events, I am happy to do so. When it's just some random folks going out to drink--I'll usually pass. I want to be a team player. I spend enough working hours at work that asking me to sacrifice additional time away from my family strikes me as something that deserves some thoughtful consideration.