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Need your advise. My 6 year old daughter (who is our most sensitive child) came
Ten_Hour_Drives
4/1/21 5:53pm
I got bullied A LOT as a kid. Like, excessively. For many reasons. I don’t think bullying is good. That said I think you
Slim
4/1/21 5:57pm
I agree about focusing on your own child ... but actually 1st grade bullies
runnincoug
4/1/21 6:40pm
Agreed. This can be resolved at that grade level. And teaching a 1st grader
777
4/1/21 6:53pm
I was always the smallest kid in my class when I was in elementary school
Belboz
4/1/21 7:07pm
80s for me. I was pushed, punched, called names, made fun of for my height, weight, glasses, teeth, religion, poverty
Slim
4/1/21 7:10pm
I think it's different for boys in general. It's probably a lot easier.
Belboz
4/1/21 7:18pm
Geez where did all you guys go to school -Thunder Dome High?
SwanSong
4/1/21 9:03pm
Southern California in the 1980s in an economically disadvantaged community
Slim
4/1/21 9:06pm
I was in So CA too then, maybe an older brother helped indirectly
SwanSong
4/1/21 10:53pm
I didn’t play sports until I got to high school. I tried to sign up for baseball but my parents told me they couldn’t
Slim
4/1/21 10:59pm
Long story short
SwanSong
4/1/21 11:12pm
Umm.. sendimg you a BM
CarolinaCoug
4/2/21 12:13am
That’s kind of gross.
BYU Grounds
4/2/21 1:57pm
I never got into a fight after 6th or 7th grade
Belboz
4/1/21 10:32pm
This was me..80's too tall skinny poor,broken tape glasses, bad hair style
CarolinaCoug
4/1/21 9:45pm
If you were to meet my today you would never guess that I was bullied growing up. But I was. Relentlessly. Which is, in
Slim
4/1/21 9:56pm
I also had taped glasses lol
Slim
4/1/21 10:02pm
It would always dog into my skin on nose or around orbit..ugh!
CarolinaCoug
4/1/21 11:37pm
Same here. I have an athletic physique, became yhe popular kid. Dated
CarolinaCoug
4/1/21 11:36pm
Dwayne is that you?
BYU Grounds
4/2/21 2:00pm
good for you, brother; I'm very sorry to hear what a crappy childhood you had
BYUtiful
4/2/21 12:08am
Have you ever had one of these moments out of the movies where you return your hometown/ HS reunion and all the chicks
RdF3
4/2/21 7:51am
They actually made a movie of Slim’s situation.
IceBlueCoug
4/2/21 8:05am
like a hallmark movie?
Pangare
4/2/21 8:38am
Don't use the strategy my Mom taught of laughing at the bullies. That did not
WhirleyPop
4/1/21 7:09pm
I had a good laugh at one once and it went over very well
Belboz
4/1/21 7:26pm
I bet that teacher was hoping someone would do that for quite a while
Pangare
4/2/21 8:40am
RE: I got bullied A LOT as a kid. Like, excessively. For many reasons. I don’t think bullying is good. That said I
Brisco
4/1/21 7:45pm
If you don’t advocate for her, who will? No one will
WallaX2
4/1/21 5:58pm
As the parent of a bully, I just laugh off those teacher calls. Just FYI.
SJS
4/1/21 6:00pm
I'm sorry are you telling me you don't have a problem with your child bullying
Ten_Hour_Drives
4/1/21 6:05pm
It’s the way the world works, bro.
SJS
4/1/21 6:12pm
If you are trolling then just STOP. This post is serious to me, so don't
Ten_Hour_Drives
4/1/21 6:16pm
Welcome to CB!
SJS
4/1/21 6:19pm
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juantoad
4/2/21 5:30pm
If it were me I’d go see the principal or his assistant and skip the teacher.
Bullrider
4/1/21 6:44pm
Uh no. The troll said he's fine with his kid being a bully. Did you know that
Ten_Hour_Drives
4/1/21 6:52pm
You should read this:
SJS
4/1/21 6:57pm
Weird joke or weird life.
Heath Squashwell
4/1/21 6:18pm
Uh no it’s not. It eventually comes back around. Always.
Big Daddy D
4/1/21 9:19pm
Depends on the level of bullying. If it's major physically harming, then yeah
RealSimsShadY
4/1/21 6:13pm
Personally I think you should not feel that's ok and change/repent on this
semisonic
4/1/21 6:46pm
I think the bishop needs to get involved here.
Zaphod
4/1/21 6:54pm
At the very least, someone needs to talk to a manager.
byubyu
4/1/21 7:11pm
Well, I guess we differ. Here's one talk of many from Church leaders:
semisonic
4/1/21 7:27pm
You are too nerdy. No way you have the physical stature to produce a bully.
bulletproof
4/1/21 7:26pm
RE: You are too nerdy. No way you have the physical stature to produce a bully.
SJS
4/1/21 8:03pm
SJS response is why I cant stand people hiding behind a computer.
PizzaPipeline
4/1/21 7:45pm
Agree. This SJS guy is embarrassing himself in this thread
shammy
4/1/21 8:56pm
RE: As the parent of a bully, I just laugh off those teacher calls. Just FYI.
SJS
4/1/21 7:57pm
Which is why I always say a bully needs a punch in the face. They must
Big Daddy D
4/1/21 9:18pm
Here's something to consider. Bullies are usually bigger than their peers
SouthernCoug
4/7/21 4:14pm
I never had much of a problem with bullies because I made friends with the...
So it goes...
4/7/21 6:17pm
if you find you're not getting enough attention from the school on this. all
Cougarclaw
4/1/21 6:03pm
I thought about this topic of bullying. I was picked on a lot as a kid growing
JohnnyC
4/1/21 6:06pm
When my kids come to me telling me that someone is mistreating them I usually tell them “either do something about it or
Slim
4/1/21 6:08pm
They are in the same class. There is no avoiding this little brat. And for
Ten_Hour_Drives
4/1/21 6:10pm
You’re wrong
Slim
4/1/21 6:11pm
Maybe there are lots of people on here with experience as kids that are more extreme
CSoul
4/1/21 6:13pm
What better age to teach her to fend for herself? Kids this age soak everything
RealSimsShadY
4/1/21 6:15pm
The other girl is also 6 and in 1st grade, no?
John Doe
4/1/21 6:27pm
You assume the bully comes from a normal family situation? Bullies often are
Preppy
4/1/21 6:41pm
And this is exactly why it's okay to let the principle know what's going on. The
777
4/2/21 1:55am
It’s never too young to teach your kid good life skills.
IceBlueCoug
4/1/21 6:42pm
Also, you need to stop referring to the other girl as a brat. You don’t know the whole story.
IceBlueCoug
4/1/21 6:44pm
No i don't. Saying something rude or giving someone dirty looks is one thing,
Ten_Hour_Drives
4/1/21 6:56pm
RE: No i don't. Saying something rude or giving someone dirty looks is one
JohnnyC
4/1/21 7:06pm
Did you daughter get hurt? Did she scrape her knees or bonk her head as a result of being pushed?
IceBlueCoug
4/1/21 7:15pm
Dude she is like 6 or 7. You are way overreacting. Kids push each other all the
Baron
4/1/21 8:39pm
She’s a 6 year old first grade girl. Not a violent criminal.
Kavorka
4/1/21 9:19pm
We are nearly the exact same situation.
Joe
4/1/21 9:22pm
RE: No i don't. Saying something rude or giving someone dirty looks is one
BYU Grounds
4/1/21 9:25pm
So, you don't really want ADVICE. You want validation
fattycoug
4/1/21 6:59pm
No I don't want validation, I want some constructive advise, which many have
Ten_Hour_Drives
4/1/21 7:05pm
We’ve all had children come home sobbing because of how others treated them. Some of us were those kids once
Slim
4/1/21 7:13pm
As a therapist, I'd say teaching your kids how to cope with bullies is actually
fattycoug
4/1/21 7:16pm
You’re a sensitive one
SJS
4/1/21 7:19pm
Every kid since the beginning of time has had to deal with bullies. It’s not new and it’s not going to go away.
IceBlueCoug
4/1/21 7:19pm
Many of us on the board have been in seemingly very similar circumstances.
BerkeleyCoug
4/1/21 7:20pm
IDK. I think bullies are brats and I don't like them. Sometimes I sort of
Jay Rick
4/1/21 10:06pm
I'm feeling bullied by your vulgarity...
jaromp
4/1/21 9:59pm
Dude, the "little brat" is also a first grader. Take your own advice.
Byron McNertney
4/1/21 8:30pm
There is a good chance the little brat has been abused. If you work
regularfan
4/1/21 8:57pm
Alright, this crossed a line. You didn't get the advice you want so you tell
Vincent's Picks
4/2/21 10:46am
I was also bullied daily in elementary school. It didn't stop until I stood up
Adwight
4/1/21 6:21pm
And there's video of the incident!
byubyu
4/1/21 6:25pm
Something like that ;).
Adwight
4/1/21 6:27pm
Have you watched the Irishman?
HookEmCoug
4/1/21 6:09pm
Sadly my experience is that it’s next to impossible to stop bullying. Talking to
mudpupper
4/1/21 6:10pm
Try to help reduce it, but also teach her how to deal with it. I had glasses since I was 2 years old and
CSoul
4/1/21 6:10pm
Sign her up for Brazilian Jiu Jitsu.
Zedhead
4/1/21 6:11pm
I can hear my wife screaming "Krav Maga!" right now
RealSimsShadY
4/1/21 6:16pm
I think you may be overreacting and I recommend a different approach.
garyfan
4/1/21 6:17pm
Yep, 10-hr is in the right, but overreacting in a counterproductive way. Needs to take a deep breath before continuing.
ColoSpgs
4/1/21 6:43pm
Worry about the lessons taught to the daughter thnking she's incapable of resolving conflict without adult interferance.
Soupie
4/1/21 9:55pm
Depending on your level of crazy, you could call the bully’s parent.
Heath Squashwell
4/1/21 6:21pm
Was your grandpa a Hatfield or a McCoy?
Cougar Junkie
4/1/21 6:34pm
My sons were bullied a bit in elementary school. They are twins and both
USMCdad
4/1/21 6:21pm
My dad grew up in San Francisco. When he was a boy, a group of boys ganged up
Cougar Junkie
4/1/21 6:39pm
Is this your dad?
BoiseBlueCoug
4/1/21 7:40pm
My dad looked more like Sean Connery, but you have the idea.
Cougar Junkie
4/1/21 7:43pm
Wait, 6 year olds pushing and shoving and giving dirty looks is bullying now?
jrob30
4/1/21 6:41pm
I hate that. Kids start out so sweet and good and it sucks seeing them learn
Backcountry
4/1/21 6:44pm
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OPINIONS
4/1/21 6:47pm
You have every right to protect your child. I just caution that if you meet the
58DCougar
4/1/21 6:52pm
Teach your kid to stand up for themselves and maybe even how to fight. I didn't
Ash
4/1/21 6:54pm
I don’t hate many things. Yellow mustard. Pickles. Bullies.
Jay Rick
4/1/21 6:58pm
Mustard? Pickles? Now I hate YOU.
Cougar Junkie
4/1/21 7:00pm
I know. My wife and son both love mustard and pickles. I literally gag at the
Jay Rick
4/1/21 7:45pm
That's unfortunate.
Cougar Junkie
4/1/21 8:23pm
Pickles? What kind of sick monster are you?
John Doe
4/1/21 7:15pm
I would follow both helping to curb the bullying and helping your child cope
semisonic
4/1/21 6:59pm
Verbal is one thing. When they lay their hands on your child that's another
777
4/1/21 6:59pm
This helped me understand bullying in ways I hadn’t before:
HamsterCoug
4/1/21 7:35pm
At first, I thought this was a joke, but these guys make some points via HP
BringYourUltimate
4/2/21 8:22am
Mandated Church leadership training on protecting children and youth
semisonic
4/1/21 7:41pm
OK. I want to thank those of you that shared some good constructive advise, and
Ten_Hour_Drives
4/1/21 7:45pm
Im sorry for those who weren't compassionate for your circumstance and child
semisonic
4/1/21 7:52pm
There was some weird subthread here but the other stuff you called garbage was
fattycoug
4/1/21 7:53pm
I think you missed some of the truly unhelpful posts There definitely were some.
semisonic
4/1/21 7:55pm
Didn't miss them. But the OP specifically called out very sound advice as such
fattycoug
4/1/21 7:57pm
We take bullying seriously but based on your responses we don't take you serious
Champ Kind
4/1/21 8:48pm
RE: OK. I want to thank those of you that shared some good constructive advise,
LaVellIfIKnow
4/1/21 8:48pm
Fine, but dude, it's "advice." Grammar nazis can't take you seriously either
Ash
4/2/21 6:06am
Thank you, Ash. I almost pulled the trigger three times on that point.
Smack
4/3/21 6:44pm
The ironic thing here is that many of us remember being bullied, but don't
andrewth
4/1/21 8:22pm
I wouldn't over-estimate what the teacher can actually do
StantonMac
4/1/21 8:34pm
Thank you. I agree. Several people that actually took my post seriously DM'd
Ten_Hour_Drives
4/1/21 8:38pm
This will lead to an endless path of your child being bullied and not being
andrewth
4/1/21 8:56pm
RE: This will lead to an endless path of your child being bullied and not being
Bin01015
4/1/21 10:37pm
Honestly, I don't get this. We are talking about 6-7 year old girls bullying
777
4/2/21 1:51am
RE: Thank you. I agree. Several people that actually took my post seriously
Preppy
4/1/21 9:10pm
Think about what just happened. You sought advice and the majority of people recommended an alternative course. But a
Slim
4/1/21 9:17pm
Yes deal with the school board that's the route to go.
Baron
4/1/21 8:45pm
Sweep the leg. Don't waste time on Wax On, Wax Off. Teach her to show no mercy.
Q-grr
4/1/21 8:38pm
Haha, yes Sensei!
Ten_Hour_Drives
4/1/21 8:41pm
It’s disappointing to see you joke so callously about a serious situation
SJS
4/1/21 8:52pm
Some people just don’t take bullying seriously. Also, Ten_Hour,
garyfan
4/1/21 8:59pm
It's not disappointing to see you embarrass yourself in this thread.
shammy
4/1/21 10:45pm
go to the principal, they should have a zero tolerance policy on bullying....
BYU Grounds
4/1/21 8:42pm
I am going to say something that I often have to say to clients and it is always awkward. I do a fair amount of estate
vegasnative
4/1/21 10:23pm
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Ten_Hour_Drives
4/4/21 6:13pm
No point in talking to the other parents. Leave that to the school.
Bin01015
4/1/21 10:26pm
My advice - take a deep breath
botticus
4/1/21 10:30pm
I agree, except for this: "Ask you daughter what she wants you to do". That road
Cougar Junkie
4/1/21 10:43pm
Yeah, you're probably right.
botticus
4/1/21 10:57pm
In grade school I got bullied cause I didn’t talk. One girl would pinch me and
ByuImaginesDragons
4/2/21 2:01am
My son was in primary with a kid that was a bully. He was large boy and
Bin01015
4/2/21 8:39am
I was bullied as a young teen (late bloomer). However, because of
coolblue
4/2/21 7:36am
I hope your biggest takeaway from this thread isn’t what to do with the school
Medute
4/2/21 7:41am
Whoa! This is a REALLY long thread. I think lots of CB members have issues.
Pangare
4/2/21 8:51am
Large percentage of the thread is OP attacking so . .
RealSimsShadY
4/2/21 9:57am
100% of that is because the OP is being a jerk to people that are trying to
crazY
4/2/21 10:25am
Absolutely. OP turned this thread into a Facebook neighborhood group real fast
RealSimsShadY
4/2/21 10:28am
Most of the posts aren't attacking him, they just disagree w/ his line of thinking.
IceBlueCoug
4/2/21 10:28am
There are subthreads you’re not seeing because they were deleted.
garyfan
4/2/21 1:49pm
In the short term it is appropriate to talk to school officials, including the
TailgateU
4/2/21 10:01am
Thanks everyone for the helpful comments & experiences you shared on this thread
Ten_Hour_Drives
4/4/21 6:43pm
RE: Thanks everyone for the helpful comments & experiences you shared on
SJS
4/4/21 7:35pm
Yup. Yikes.
Virginia Ute
4/4/21 7:41pm
Super odd...clearly an insecure dude trying to throw out he “does anesthesia.”
Graystation
4/7/21 6:47pm
I figured that meant huffing nitrous. Which, well.. is probably a good thing.
jokerman
4/4/21 8:07pm
I’m not sure I’d want you doing my anesthesia if you get rattled that easily.
crazY
4/4/21 10:35pm
RE: Thanks everyone for the helpful comments & experiences you shared on this thread
IceBlueCoug
4/4/21 8:48pm
<my fo=""> this guy is so sensitive</my>
Champ Kind
4/4/21 11:25pm
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