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Jun 23, 2019
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Cheesy Gordita
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I think it's always been like that. Dating isn't just about marrying a nice person.
Having it together financially is one part but it isn't the whole thing.
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I just want to say boys are stupid!!!
BYUforlife
6/22/19 10:49pm
I have a younger roommate looking to get out of the apartment maybe we can set them up
DKN
6/22/19 10:51pm
Wait. You have NINE kids!?
Gerald-DeGroot
6/22/19 10:54pm
Yes, but that was not the takeaway here!
BYUforlife
6/22/19 10:56pm
It was the takeaway for me! Nine kids!? Crazy.
Gerald-DeGroot
6/22/19 11:03pm
Nine kids- fantastic!
CougarMandias
6/23/19 8:16pm
I’m sure she’ll be fine. Has to be hard to see your daughter have struggles like this. But if she’s as cool as her
The Dude Abides
6/22/19 10:55pm
For college age boys weight is more important than almost anything else. Sucks for your daughter. Sorry she is going
CDV
6/22/19 10:56pm
My 1 observation. Boys care little if girls are funny
darkcoug
6/22/19 10:57pm
“I want a girl who will laugh for no one else.”
Gerald-DeGroot
6/22/19 11:06pm
such a good line.
Mayor of Cougartown
6/22/19 11:08pm
Pfft. TNT hasn't said anything funny ever and look where he is
TNT
6/22/19 11:15pm
Why doesn’t she ask a guy out she likes?
Fatalplacebo
6/22/19 10:59pm
She has.
BYUforlife
6/22/19 11:01pm
And?
Fatalplacebo
6/22/19 11:03pm
They’ve all be one date and then the boys have said they want to be friends.
BYUforlife
6/22/19 11:05pm
I understand that’s frustrating. But tell her not to give up. I’m not saying
Fatalplacebo
6/22/19 11:25pm
Was she expecting to marry them all?
Jericho
6/23/19 11:32am
I was 29 when I got married. I felt like a failure but I ended up with the right
Cosmo4life
6/23/19 9:33am
So 'bribing' is how to make it big. No wonder...I've been doing it wrong! 😉
m0resn0w
6/23/19 6:41pm
Haha no rush my friend. Have fun and work on you. It will work out
Cosmo4life
6/23/19 7:38pm
Um..... you wrote "bribing" instead of "bringing"
LDTemplar
6/24/19 1:53pm
Well...not so much making fun...as just having some fun. Then I thought, ESL?
m0resn0w
6/24/19 4:43pm
Sounds like she intimidates a lot of guys... I'd feel like I didn't measure up
UberDeek
6/22/19 11:05pm
Common misconception that guys only want size 0. Sizes 2 and 4 are pretty good too.
TCuz
6/22/19 11:06pm
What about size 2-0 or 20
BIG XII Coug
6/22/19 11:07pm
My son is awesome, but shy. I'd Venmo money to her just to ask him out. 🙂
BYUCPA
6/22/19 11:07pm
Those situations can be so tough. Hopefully she has a little better luck
cougfanz
6/22/19 11:08pm
I don't think Luck has as much to do with it as you're saying imo.
Mayor of Cougartown
6/22/19 11:36pm
Is your daughter physically fit?
Richbyu
6/22/19 11:11pm
Yes. She’s danced her whole life and continues with classes still.
BYUforlife
6/22/19 11:13pm
The fact is you are making my point. She is not obese but not skinny . . .
BYUforlife
6/22/19 11:16pm
I disagree that guys only want rail thin.
Richbyu
6/22/19 11:21pm
True. I like a little meat.
Mr. Belding
6/22/19 11:24pm
Asian guys?
JOPE
6/23/19 2:47am
Is this your song? I'll pay the actual music video FO or something
Cheesy Gordita
6/23/19 3:27am
No. That’s a lot of meat.
Mr. Belding
6/23/19 11:18am
Rail thin is ugly
byukarl
6/23/19 9:11am
No one is ugly if they are a nice good person. Rail thin, can be attractive to
BYUtka
6/23/19 9:29am
That said, I agree with your other points.
BYUtka
6/23/19 9:40am
Women usually get bigger with time.
Jericho
6/23/19 11:12am
When I was in the dating pool I took notice of fat potential. You could predict
buckeyecougarguy
6/23/19 8:01pm
Speaking for myself, I only dated girls who could hike/bike/climb with me. You
Byron McNertney
6/23/19 3:48pm
Yep, lifestyle comes into play!
calvindyer
6/23/19 6:18pm
Hopefully she's showing interest in guys that are "not a size zero"
Machiavelli
6/23/19 4:27pm
False. I always started my pool with "fit." I've always been more attracted to
(Private)
6/24/19 9:15am
I have news for you, girls can be pretty terrible as well.
fredy
6/22/19 11:13pm
Amen brother!
LDTemplar
6/24/19 1:58pm
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Buffalo
6/22/19 11:18pm
Yes they are and will remain stupid. My daughter is putting on quite a bit of
Agnostic-alumni
6/22/19 11:19pm
It’s not fair that guys care if a girl is fat?
Mr. Belding
6/22/19 11:24pm
yeah, fairness has nothing to do with it. If you're not going out friday night
Mayor of Cougartown
6/22/19 11:26pm
my daughter's car is full of empty fast food containers. She is doing it to
Agnostic-alumni
6/22/19 11:30pm
Men judge women on physical attraction more than women judge men
Agnostic-alumni
6/22/19 11:27pm
Yes, my daughter does have this issue.
BYUforlife
6/22/19 11:38pm
Or guys who are not in a certain profession/income bracket.
Y05
6/23/19 12:24pm
You should discuss with your wife the possibility of recommending your daughter meet with a Dr to discuss drugs like
HarlemCoug
6/23/19 8:54am
I feel your pain. Going through Sam thing with my girl and it kills me
Von Cougarschnauzer
6/23/19 8:18pm
I think people misunderstand marriage. Marriage isn't about making yourself
Blue Ghost
6/24/19 8:50am
overweight girls and socially awkward guys have it rough at that age
byujag
6/22/19 11:21pm
Your daughter sounds Rad, she will find a Rad dude who will appreciate her,
akmewg
6/22/19 11:24pm
What year is this gif
Mr. Belding
6/22/19 11:25pm
was just thinking the same thing lol. Is this 1989?
Mayor of Cougartown
6/22/19 11:26pm
RE: What year is this gif
akmewg
6/22/19 11:30pm
I watched some YouTube Y freshman videos and they said the boys aren’t that hot
VballDad
6/22/19 11:34pm
I remember a bishop from a singles ward lamenting about all the single guys.
Agnostic-alumni
6/22/19 11:38pm
I had a bishop look at the quorum, say the same thing and then he
Cougarclaw
6/23/19 9:10am
I loved it when bishops mocked the men in the ward. It was very motivating.
TheWanderer
6/23/19 9:15am
How is a dose of blunt honesty mocking?
BYUtka
6/23/19 4:47pm
Super motivating. It really got me up in the morning.
TheWanderer
6/23/19 4:59pm
Oh...I get how it was mocking now. It isn't nice to tell a 1-2 that they are a 5
BYUtka
6/23/19 5:06pm
RE: Oh...I get how it was mocking now. It isn't nice to tell a 1-2 that they are
TheWanderer
6/23/19 5:10pm
I got married at a much older age than most people living in Provo and can
m0resn0w
6/23/19 7:01pm
I know beautiful size 0 models that don't get dates. I'm being serious. They
777
6/22/19 11:35pm
This is so true. It is social/flirting skills more than looks in the dating game
BYUtka
6/23/19 5:08pm
Correction: SOME boys are stupid and shallow.
Traveshamockery
6/22/19 11:53pm
Boys are stupid. But now that your daughter is aware of that fact, it'd be good to
mik3
6/22/19 11:56pm
I am a 23 year old male and I disagree with a portion of this post as it relates
yaxcoug
6/23/19 12:41am
I do think it applies to most men though
yaxcoug
6/23/19 12:43am
Sounds like you need to BM BYUforlife your digits so his daughter could ask you
akmewg
6/23/19 12:59am
Pros: I’m 6’5” Cons: I’m on CB
yaxcoug
6/23/19 9:34am
Wow, same here
md7Coug
6/22/19 11:57pm
Does she have an on campus job? Is she involved in any clubs or activities? The
BYUtka
6/23/19 12:01am
My wife is really tall (6'4", I'm only 5'9") and never got asked out in college.
Oranje
6/23/19 12:13am
RE: My wife is really tall (6'4", I'm only 5'9") and never got asked out in
garyfan
6/23/19 12:40am
Yeah. Boys and men suck as far as dating.
yaxcoug
6/23/19 12:42am
Dealing with rejection is hard. Easier for many to just not bother. What stops
SandYFan
6/23/19 1:19am
Culture is still a big part of it.
Y05
6/23/19 5:35am
How old is she? I got some Cbers I could set her up with. DKN, TNT, Clackamas
spugeddy24
6/23/19 12:50am
I think most men don't want rail thin. I've had this discussion with my wife.
vegasnative
6/23/19 1:44am
Knowing how to flirt is key
Odysseus
6/23/19 6:36am
Body language. Girls that can dance, play volleyball, play tennis, rock climb,
calvindyer
6/23/19 4:17am
Boys should not be torn down because they value physical attraction.
Cougarclaw
6/23/19 4:51am
Endless listening, had no idea until I was married what an insanely good
calvindyer
6/23/19 5:07am
yeah man, it isn't about the nail
demon_llama
6/23/19 3:33pm
Yes, I’m not able to travel across the planet to visit orphans so I don’t
VballDad
6/23/19 4:38pm
If she helped local orphans it would go WAY further, at BYU when girls saw me
calvindyer
6/23/19 4:41pm
Ugh.
chilango
6/23/19 5:10am
Sounds like she needs uglier roommates and to stay at school through summer.
thecthdox
6/23/19 5:12am
My brother is a skinny guy, but he likes and is engaged to a big woman.
Y05
6/23/19 5:18am
My friend was that way. Gym rat who married a larger woman. I never would have picked them as a couple. They're great.
byuluvr
6/23/19 9:02am
Are you sure she isn't getting asked out or is she not getting asked out by the
Mister P
6/23/19 6:28am
P.S. I'll tell you how you can find out if my theory is correct.
Mister P
6/23/19 6:46am
She will find someone. It’s the long game that matters.
Philosoraptor
6/23/19 6:51am
Is your daughter young? If yes, then tell her to just keep smiling and being herself. The goal is to find 1
BYUALWAYSNUM1
6/23/19 7:25am
The good news is she has the intangibles down and the one thi g she is lacking is within her power to change.
kccougar
6/23/19 7:28am
BYU is the best are worst place to date
BYULAWGUY
6/23/19 7:42am
A lot of girls are the same way
MagicHappen$
6/23/19 7:43am
I think it's always been like that. Dating isn't just about marrying a nice person.
Cheesy Gordita
6/23/19 7:55am
Yes, I agree. But just showing that it isn’t always just the boys
MagicHappen$
6/23/19 8:20am
10s marry 10s, 8s marry 8s, 5s marry 5s.
Hank Rearden
6/23/19 8:13am
Good point. Eventually guys realize that and after a few years
cougfanz
6/23/19 8:25am
This. My amazing/not super attractive sister falls in love with 10s then falls
Santos L. Halper
6/23/19 9:12am
How you dress and present matters
byukarl
6/23/19 9:36am
Very true.
Santos L. Halper
6/23/19 9:46am
Not always the case
byukarl
6/23/19 9:34am
Sure what one person says is an 8, another might view as a 6, so surley there are discrepancies and exceptions,
Hank Rearden
6/23/19 9:50am
If you are talking Greek God blessed looks sure.
byukarl
6/23/19 9:59am
I suspect you and I are in agreement. My point was a simple, superfluous point about physical appearance and yours.
Hank Rearden
6/23/19 12:38pm
Also fit girls have fit girl hobbies, yoga, running, tennis, shoeshoeing,
calvindyer
6/23/19 2:04pm
Is it possible that her social/flirting game is not on point? Guys like girls of
BYUtka
6/23/19 8:18am
Utah county guys are...
byukarl
6/23/19 9:23am
Here’s some advice: don’t tell your daughter any of this
Alpi Gusto
6/23/19 9:59am
One of her friends or a sister should
byukarl
6/23/19 10:02am
I feel for her. My dating game was pathetic at BYU. I was 400 pounds and had zero confidence. I decided to change
monkeycowboy
6/23/19 10:01am
You are correct
byukarl
6/23/19 10:05am
And your face and teeth and some other things you may have to pay to fix
supertux
6/23/19 10:06am
Good job man!
Agnostic-alumni
6/23/19 1:36pm
Yep. It’s an amazing story. Mad respect. I get pumped everytime MC
Gerald-DeGroot
6/23/19 2:48pm
I think we do young ladies a large disservice by treating dating like charity.
TheWanderer
6/23/19 10:25am
you may have put it better than I did, but I was thinking something similar
SCKIN
6/23/19 3:00pm
I'm a little surprised at a lot of the reactions here calling guys shallow, etc
SCKIN
6/23/19 2:58pm
That was me - and now I'm in my mid-30s and still single (and awesome). The
cougarsnooty
6/23/19 5:22pm
Elder Perry spoke at a BYU devo a few years back and instructed girls to
Sherlock
6/23/19 7:34pm
Ugh. He came to Indiana 10 years ago and told Hispanics to hurry up and learn
Von Cougarschnauzer
6/23/19 8:22pm
Ha ha! I like that advice.
Santos L. Halper
6/23/19 8:49pm
It only takes one
Sexytaxman
6/23/19 11:16pm
My dating history at BYU was basically me being distracted or bad timing...
Shore10
6/23/19 7:37pm
single guys you're age I know go to Acro Yoga on Sundays, says it is all cute
calvindyer
6/23/19 9:33pm
Haha good call. Wonder of it works for any of them
Shore10
6/24/19 7:16am
Give it another shot, go to a Mid Singles Ward and you’ll crush it with all the
VballDad
6/24/19 8:17am
Tell her to look at this as an opportunity to reflect on ways she can improve
GAINZ
6/23/19 7:42pm
Weekends join a coed intramural team, ultimate frisbee, soccer, volleyball etc.
calvindyer
6/23/19 9:30pm
It goes both ways. Im sure there are guys interested in asking her out but she
carlstud
6/23/19 7:44pm
Don't pressure her. She's still young
Frank Castiglione
6/23/19 7:53pm
Teach her how to flirt.
Blue Ghost
6/23/19 10:26pm
Some boys are immature and aren't ready to commit/get married
BYUBandfan
6/23/19 10:51pm
Some *people.
TheWanderer
6/24/19 8:10am
If only I knew someone in a seduction club
Alpi Gusto
6/23/19 11:04pm
Does she work out and eat healthily?
chazen
6/24/19 1:24am
Usually when you think it is everyone elses problem it is time to look in the
Dillinger
6/24/19 9:53am
Absolutely not. This is totally the boys in her ward that need to be reprimanded
TheWanderer
6/24/19 9:57am
Except the short ones. Because she has no time for shorties. Gross.
Scratch
6/24/19 10:13am
RE: Except the short ones. Because she has no time for shorties. Gross.
supertux
6/24/19 10:25am
Dating at BYU was miserable in my experience. Much better when I left.
Mitty
6/24/19 10:28am
How does she dress?
bluecheese
6/24/19 3:35pm
RE: How does she dress?
IceBlueCoug
6/24/19 3:40pm
Probably like these guys
Zilog
6/24/19 4:44pm
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