trick is to learn how to be happy with what you see in yourself and not what others see, or don't see, in you. It's an ongoing process though, that's for sure. And also to get out of Provo. I stayed in Provo for a couple years after graduation because I didn't know what to do next with my life - no one prepared me for the chance I'd be leaving BYU on my own. Even though the self-pity parties happen on occasion, it's easier when there's not this constant barrage of "everyone else" dating or getting married. Just make sure she knows you love her and are proud of her!